it's a love story
Wow. It's been over a year since I've posted. I knew that the last two blogs I wrote were about my search for "prince charming" and being alone. It's amazing how things can change in a year. Just to update, I'm now happily married and living in Columbia, South Carolina. My loneliness continued for a while, and then towards the Spring of last year I made up my mind to enjoy being single spend time doing things I love. I was working at a restaurant, which is honestly probably the best restaurant I've eaten at. I dropped out of grad school, because honestly, I hate school. It's no fun. I'm just not an academic person. As much as the food industry is something I enjoy, because I love food so stinking much, I was restless and wanted to be involved in a career where I was really helping people. So my search began for finding employment elsewhere. I applied for Children's pastor positions, various non-profit jobs, and a couple DCS positions.
As I was searching over the spring and summer, my friendship with my dear friend Tim continued to grow. Nothing opened up job wise, but I found myself wanting to be around him more and more. I started to think that maybe perhaps I was feeling something, but I was definitely denying any of those inklings. In June, I was at my friend Michelle's birthday party and out of the blue she said "I would totally be ok with it if you and Tim got married." Married! What? I said, "no, no, no....that's not going to happen." I thought it was so weird that she would just say that. Silly Michelle.
The first week of July I drove up to Pennsylvania to see my wonderful family, and celebrate my niece Evie's birthday. It was also the week of my birthday and in my journal I wrote "being 27 is about being single and loving it!" I was DETERMINED to make the most of my single state. My biggest dreams have always been to marry a pastor and have lots of babies with my dream man. But being happy is a lot more fun than pining for something that I didn't have. So contentedness was the goal. Well the whole time that week I was determining to enjoy singlehood, I could not stop thinking about my dear friend Tim. Seriously? It was so weird. When I was spending the day with by childhood best friend Bonnie Tim texted me. I said to her "that's weird, we see each other all the time, why is he texting me?" Bonnie said, "he misses you!" And then she proceeded to tell me how her brother-in-law and his wife were friends for years before they got together. But that wouldn't happen for me, plus being 27 is about being single and loving it.
So I was driving to TN and telling my friend Brittni about my strange feelings. And I said to her "I think I want to kiss him just to see what it's like." So Tim and I made plans to see one another the day after I arrived back in Cleveland (a Sunday). And boy was I nervous! Why was I nervous to see TIM? I have known him for YEARS! And just a little back story, in the Spring we had a bit of an awkward couple weeks b/c I thought he liked me (he did) and tried to back off. He told me I was being silly and that he didn't currently and never did (liar) have feelings for me. But it worked because we went back to hanging out all the time. So, back to July, I suspected that he might possibly have feelings, and I knew that I would have to be the one to bring it up because I had shot him down a few months before. So we ate lunch, went on a walk, and then started watching a movie. Well I didn't say a word to him, but I snuggled up to him super close during the movie and by the end we were in a full-on cuddle. WE CUDDLED! AH! So what did we say when the movie ended? Nothing. He got up and said, "Well, gotta go!" And I said awkwardly, "ok have a good night!" We didn't acknowledge a thing!
The entire week I was restless, I had to tell him how I felt. Any time I saw him I just wanted to kiss him, and I was thinking "WHAT IN THE WORLD IS GOING ON????!!!!!" By the following Sunday (July 15), he came over. So we ate, then watched Eat Pray Love (definitely my choice!). Well halfway through the movie we were snuggled up, and HOLDING HANDS!!! I was freaking out. So as soon as the movie ended, I said "so Tim do you have feelings for me or are your just horny and alone?" He said "well, I would be lying if I said I didn't have feelings....how about you." I said shyly, "I have feelings." So we spent the next several hours talking about how felt, what the past several months had been like, and what we were going to do about it. The consensus at the end of the evening was that we were going to take it slow and keep it a secret because we didn't want to make it weird for our friends, and there is always the possibility of it not working out. And the next several weeks went as follows:
Monday: He shows up to my work with daisies....so lovely! Asks me on an "official date" for Sunday
Tuesday: He tells some of his friends, I tell some of mine. Our first kiss
Thursday: He leaves roses and poetry at my apartment door
Saturday: We are officially boyfriend and girlfriend, we say the "L" word!
Sunday: First date, he says he knows he's going to marry me
The following week: We talk about elopement
The next week: We visit his family, book the wedding venue
The next week: We visit my family, he asks for mom and dad's blessing
August 23rd: We're engaged!
January 6: We're married!
I'd say that was a whirlwind romance. It's crazy how God was just getting us both ready for the right moment, and when it came, we just knew that this is what needed to happen. When we were dating, we talked about how love was happening to us, and that we just had to be together. We really are the best match for one another, and he truly is my dearest friend. It's incredible to see God working everything out to bring us together. Oh, and Tim has his M.Div. and wants to be a pastor one day, and he wants to have lots of children with me! Also, I heard this song about 2 years ago and I knew I wanted someone who proved over time that they were a friend worth having! And I got my dearest friend Tim! Dreams do come true! I'm unbelievably happy!
Oh, and as far as the career thing goes, Tim and I took Financial Peace University at the Chattanooga Vineyard and decided that between my customer service job and his position as a special needs teacher, we needed to make some intense changes in order to rid of our student loans. So what did we do? We are moved to Columbia, South Carolina with his parents in order to decrease our living expenses, and we are pursuing jobs that increase our income. He is currently a car salesman and I'm still looking. I have an interview on Wednesday, so hopefully that goes well. We are hoping to open a Mission Program (9 month discipleship program) in the next several years, but it is necessary for us to get rid of our debt. So we have a plan and I feel confident that God is going to bless our hard work! I'm excited about the possibilities and I am delighted in the Lord's faithfulness!
As I was searching over the spring and summer, my friendship with my dear friend Tim continued to grow. Nothing opened up job wise, but I found myself wanting to be around him more and more. I started to think that maybe perhaps I was feeling something, but I was definitely denying any of those inklings. In June, I was at my friend Michelle's birthday party and out of the blue she said "I would totally be ok with it if you and Tim got married." Married! What? I said, "no, no, no....that's not going to happen." I thought it was so weird that she would just say that. Silly Michelle.
The first week of July I drove up to Pennsylvania to see my wonderful family, and celebrate my niece Evie's birthday. It was also the week of my birthday and in my journal I wrote "being 27 is about being single and loving it!" I was DETERMINED to make the most of my single state. My biggest dreams have always been to marry a pastor and have lots of babies with my dream man. But being happy is a lot more fun than pining for something that I didn't have. So contentedness was the goal. Well the whole time that week I was determining to enjoy singlehood, I could not stop thinking about my dear friend Tim. Seriously? It was so weird. When I was spending the day with by childhood best friend Bonnie Tim texted me. I said to her "that's weird, we see each other all the time, why is he texting me?" Bonnie said, "he misses you!" And then she proceeded to tell me how her brother-in-law and his wife were friends for years before they got together. But that wouldn't happen for me, plus being 27 is about being single and loving it.
So I was driving to TN and telling my friend Brittni about my strange feelings. And I said to her "I think I want to kiss him just to see what it's like." So Tim and I made plans to see one another the day after I arrived back in Cleveland (a Sunday). And boy was I nervous! Why was I nervous to see TIM? I have known him for YEARS! And just a little back story, in the Spring we had a bit of an awkward couple weeks b/c I thought he liked me (he did) and tried to back off. He told me I was being silly and that he didn't currently and never did (liar) have feelings for me. But it worked because we went back to hanging out all the time. So, back to July, I suspected that he might possibly have feelings, and I knew that I would have to be the one to bring it up because I had shot him down a few months before. So we ate lunch, went on a walk, and then started watching a movie. Well I didn't say a word to him, but I snuggled up to him super close during the movie and by the end we were in a full-on cuddle. WE CUDDLED! AH! So what did we say when the movie ended? Nothing. He got up and said, "Well, gotta go!" And I said awkwardly, "ok have a good night!" We didn't acknowledge a thing!
The entire week I was restless, I had to tell him how I felt. Any time I saw him I just wanted to kiss him, and I was thinking "WHAT IN THE WORLD IS GOING ON????!!!!!" By the following Sunday (July 15), he came over. So we ate, then watched Eat Pray Love (definitely my choice!). Well halfway through the movie we were snuggled up, and HOLDING HANDS!!! I was freaking out. So as soon as the movie ended, I said "so Tim do you have feelings for me or are your just horny and alone?" He said "well, I would be lying if I said I didn't have feelings....how about you." I said shyly, "I have feelings." So we spent the next several hours talking about how felt, what the past several months had been like, and what we were going to do about it. The consensus at the end of the evening was that we were going to take it slow and keep it a secret because we didn't want to make it weird for our friends, and there is always the possibility of it not working out. And the next several weeks went as follows:
Monday: He shows up to my work with daisies....so lovely! Asks me on an "official date" for Sunday
Tuesday: He tells some of his friends, I tell some of mine. Our first kiss
Thursday: He leaves roses and poetry at my apartment door
Saturday: We are officially boyfriend and girlfriend, we say the "L" word!
Sunday: First date, he says he knows he's going to marry me
The following week: We talk about elopement
The next week: We visit his family, book the wedding venue
The next week: We visit my family, he asks for mom and dad's blessing
August 23rd: We're engaged!
January 6: We're married!
I'd say that was a whirlwind romance. It's crazy how God was just getting us both ready for the right moment, and when it came, we just knew that this is what needed to happen. When we were dating, we talked about how love was happening to us, and that we just had to be together. We really are the best match for one another, and he truly is my dearest friend. It's incredible to see God working everything out to bring us together. Oh, and Tim has his M.Div. and wants to be a pastor one day, and he wants to have lots of children with me! Also, I heard this song about 2 years ago and I knew I wanted someone who proved over time that they were a friend worth having! And I got my dearest friend Tim! Dreams do come true! I'm unbelievably happy!
Oh, and as far as the career thing goes, Tim and I took Financial Peace University at the Chattanooga Vineyard and decided that between my customer service job and his position as a special needs teacher, we needed to make some intense changes in order to rid of our student loans. So what did we do? We are moved to Columbia, South Carolina with his parents in order to decrease our living expenses, and we are pursuing jobs that increase our income. He is currently a car salesman and I'm still looking. I have an interview on Wednesday, so hopefully that goes well. We are hoping to open a Mission Program (9 month discipleship program) in the next several years, but it is necessary for us to get rid of our debt. So we have a plan and I feel confident that God is going to bless our hard work! I'm excited about the possibilities and I am delighted in the Lord's faithfulness!
YAY!!!!!!!!!!! Loved hearing this story again. So much can change in a year!
ReplyDeleteIt's really amazing. The whole time I was typing I had this huge smile on my face. It was such a wonderful surprise.
ReplyDeleteLove you, dear beautiful friend! The story never gets old, does it?
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